Can women really find a decent man on line?

[tangokitten33 (deleted)]

This is what I found will being on line. (Other than me,being "older")-I have about 10% chance of finding someone. My age is against me.Ihave to convince someone that is a male that I am worthy of a relationship as well as someone younger. Then -there are those scammers (My experiences about 26,including on Christian sites.) Then there are the ones that lie & are total fraudulent...Like a 55 yr.old one on this site watch out for him surelove..says he`s going to Africa,but is on line here. He wanted total submission, & had demands from me...which I don`t do. we don`t have kings or dictators here,& I was suspicious so I thought I`d see how far he`d take this,but he didn`t not at all. So-be careful not careless.[/b]

[benson7897]

`I am not sure if you mean finding a DECENT man online, or in real life?.

Most older men, such as myself, are still married, we have been for years to the same one, suddenly when a woman reaches a certain age they seem to go --"off the boil ---.

Ohhh yes they say they still love you etc etc, but thats it, the "platonic shield" comes up, no more giggles, no more "nookie", no more sudden urges to stop the car, it all becomes rather boring ---and before you ladies bang on --- yes I know it happens both ways ---- one% your way, 99% the mens way, thats why men are on ---- sites, why men look for an online flirtation, whatever.

Women online want --emotion --- love --- commitment -- whereas men, in general want a laugh--a giggle -- a bit of naughty --- the respect they have for the online woman is genuine, BT ONLY IF the male is being respectful and not saying things like ----watcha werrin BABE ----- so yes even married men can be decent.

[catgartag (deleted)]

`I wouldn't be looking for my soulmate online if I didn't believe I'd be successful. Many people have found each other through a dating site.

[mycre8or]

My thoughts about finding someone on-line is a matter of convenience. As an older woman, being a widow, I'm not comfortable going out with the intent of meeting men. Most of my friends still have their spouse. I do go out in social gatherings, but I am just one of several single females. As we all know, there are more of us than them. (More females than males).

Being on a dating site so far has not been productive. Please don't tell me that men are all that shy. It makes me wonder exactly what it is they are looking for. I can honestly tell you that whenever I am out doing my daily chores, shopping, etc., I have absolutely no problem attracting men. However, I feel that would be a "pick-up" type thing, and that I would never do. Where are the men that signed on here?

mycre8or

[a1oenesome]

`You would think the chances of meeting someone at least half decent with some shared interests would be better using sites like these rather than a chance meeting in some supermarket isle wouldn't you?

The advantage of being able to set out what your interests are, your likes and dislikes and the kind of relationship you are interested in developing should give a better than even chance of achieving that goal.

The reality (at least in my own experience) has been different. Often responses are one-liners, indecipherable text speak or just "hi" or some innuendo (in whose endo?). Sorry, but you have to laugh sometimes.

People often seem not to actually read anything you write, whether it is where you live in relation to themselves, what you are looking for as opposed to what they want, the list goes on.

In some ten years of this dating lark I've probably met two people in real life (most die off early for pushing some s----l agenda early on). It's not good is it?

Let me just say, it isn't the fault of this site in particular, I've tried several over the years and this is as good, and in some ways better than a lot of others. It's just a general thing that internet dating suffers from.

Anyway I hope you have better luck either via your existing contacts or on here.

[dancingfool (deleted)]

I met a very nice man on one of these sites, we dated for a few months, but the "spark" wasn't there, so we parted.

SS

[beibe (deleted)]

`I'm kinda new to dating sites and was hoping to find a friend to get to know here. I have seen a lot of people both M/F that say they want a realationship only to complain about something being said online. I agree that if all they want to talk about is what you are/aren't wearing then block them from contacting you. I find that wanting to know about your finances at the start is a big turn-off for me also. I can't believe people think that within a month or so you can determine if the one your conversing with is your life partner. Time must be taken to get to know someone and I've got that time as I don't/won't rush into something I'm unsure of.

[7maybe4 (deleted)]

`i am a senior senior and new to this. anyone for conversation or am i in the wrong area